Ah, modern dating in 2024, where swiping right, liking storires and pretending you´re not online has become our new courtship dance. Embracing this digital era, there is a tendency towards reducing connection to emojis and DMs, seeking love amidst notifications... Such an odd journey, dating these days...
How to begin? We aim for the rare gems (green flags) shining like beacons in the night. Imagine, if you will, someone who actually responds to your texts! Not just the obligatory “hey,” but honest conversations that flow like poetry. They genuinely want to know about your day, your dreams, and yes, even your cat's Instagram escapades. When they say, "Take your time," it feels like a serenade for the modern soul, honoring your need for space.
Consistency, dear reader, is a thing of beauty. Like the dependable WiFi signal that never flakes, they show up when they say they will. And oh, the joy of shared laughter (in real time, no screens). When humor clicks, it's like a dash of giggles, creating a vibe only you two understand.
But beware, the road is littered with red apples (flags) - pitfalls on this path to love. Inconsistent behavior, hot and cold like a fickle summer breeze. One moment they’re all in, the next, they vanish into the ether. If communication feels like decoding a cryptic message, it’s time to rethink. Disrespect rears its ugly head in subtle digs and dismissive tones, a warning sign to heed with utmost seriousness.
Ah, and those self-absorbed creatures... those who turn every conversation back to their own garden. Their reflection captivates them more than your stories ever could. And emotional unavailability? Peww! It's like dating a statue. No warmth, no depth, just a stony silence where intimacy should flourish. Sometimes the dating scene begins to feel as if each part needed to prove something... Back to my usual sayings: we are not in a war; if there's the need to "convince someone about your worth" that's not your space, boo.
Yet, amid this tumultuous dance, we have our intuition—a beacon of light guiding us through the murky waters. Please, whenever you get an incoming itch, a core cringe... listen, and put on all the awareness to what your body is telling you (did you know that our physical body has reactions to the right and wrong partners?).
Boundaries, firm and fair, are your safeguard. Speak them clearly, let them guard your heart's fortress. And, often, seek the counsel of trusted kin and kindred spirits, for sometimes, the eyes of others see what you cannot.
Must say, that there are also, subtle-cosmic flags that color our journey. Micro-affection in the small gestures—a surprise coffee, a gentle touch—speaks louder than grand declarations. Emotional intelligence, that art of navigating feelings with grace, is a treasure beyond measure. And humility, the rare ability to own up to one’s mistakes, shines like gold in this digital age. Curiosity over judgment—a partner who wonders and asks, rather than condemns and criticizes. Flexibility in life plans, dreaming together, adapting with ease. Supportive actions, not just words, that help you grow, not just cheer from the sidelines.
Ah, love in times of " disposable and what's next"... I do believe there is more than that. A little formula: prioritize yourself above all. Know your worth, and never settle for less. The right person will add harmony, not discord, to your life’s melody. Make choices that resonate with your values, bring joy to your existence, and if necessary, walk away from what doesn’t serve you.
And for us hopeless romantics, let’s not forget—we still exist. Real love feels safe, and at the same time, is a choice. Whoever we decide to bring into our world should bring ease to our nervous system. And no, you’re not too much for expressing your needs and wants—you’re being assertive. Final note, you only need one person who aligns with your values and vision, just one among a whole ocean of possibilities. Honor your heart and filter wisely.
Ciao,
Adry.
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