In a world that often values the hard and the fast, there’s a quiet revolution brewing—one that fosters gentleness, reflection, and the courage to follow one’s heart. It’s taking the alternative route; the one which invites us to slow down, to listen more closely to our gut, to ask more questions, to discern & integrate…and to infuse our lives with constant details and consistent purpose.
But, what does living a softer life would look like?
I’d say, as a delicate work in progress, blended with consistency as the core intention. As a slow living enthusiast, I’m constantly crafting and exploring how a softer path would look like. And, do you know something I’ve discovered along the way?, It constantly swifts, and alignts towards a better, wiser version of ourselves. That said, I’m currently in a phase of re-finement & grounding, in which the following are my soft living practices: (take what you need)
Listening to your intuition
Gut feeings, are inner compasses, whispering truths that can lead to authentic wellbeing. In the rush of daily life, these whispers can be lost in the noise. Please, allow the message of that inner voice be clear, by just observing how you feel when you’re with someone, where you visita a place, and when you accept something. Body speaks (and screams sometimes).
Adding beauty
Beauty is more than decoration; it’s a vital ingredient for a serene life. It’s about creating spaces that resonate with your soul. It’s by no means the over consumption of accessories, but rather the moment of lighting up some incense, or peparing coffee and smelling it in the morning, how about keeping your workspace clean and as aesthetic as your mood dictates? Adding beauty can also be as basic as going for a walk an be intentional on watching the sky. Sounds cheezy, but a standard deose of “adding beauty” to the day, results in effortless presence and a softer, out-of-the-box perspective.
Cultivating positive relationships
Relationships should be a source of support, not stress. In short: filter your connections (use your intuition). As strategic as it might sound, be the curator of how your social circles surround you. Believe me, it has a huge impact in your physical and spiritual beings. Be certain of what are your values and boundaries, and make the commitment to use those as a flexible compass to explore relationships. Most importantly, do not abandon yourself, ever to make something “flow”.
Action before interest.
Knowing when to walk away is wisdom in action. Whether it’s a job, a relationship, or any situation that lacks consistency or congruency, will keep you tied to the illusion of what “could have been”. Not feeling safe, constantly feeling theres something too weird, or giving your all and still getting mixed messages or just lack of attunement in whatever is important (times, values, practices, vision of the world, agreements…) are huge, bright flags about something not being the opimal space for your wellbeing. What if it can (and will) get better? Practice swaping the “why?” for “Now, what do I want for my next chapter?”
Choosing a softer life isn’t about weakness; it’s about finding strength in gentleness. In being so fully present and content, that you get to constanly decide from what is available at the moment, knowing that life is realigning herself towards a better outcome.
A softer life, as a creative, custom-made, lifestyle design. It’s taking action, from a clearer intention.
Ciao.
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